Is it Rude to Say Please No Gifts?

Whether you’re throwing a baby shower, birthday party, or wedding reception, most guests assume they should bring a gift.

But, what if you don’t want any gifts? Is it rude to say please no gifts on the invites or at the door? 

Read on below and explore the in-depth answer!

Is it Rude to Say Please No Gifts?

Asking your guests not to bring gifts is not rude. 

That said, you should let everyone know from the get-go that you don’t want gifts. 

Otherwise, some guests may not get the memo and still bring gifts.

If you want to say please no gifts, and not be rude, you need to go it on the invitations, or follow up with each guest immediately.

How Rude Is it?


On the rude meter’s scale of 1 to 10, saying please no gifts rates 1

There is nothing at all rude about asking for no gifts. In fact, it is more polite to ask for no gifts than it is to honestly expect every single guest to bring a gift. 

The only exception to this rule is with very close family and friends. 

Even though it isn’t rude to tell them no gifts please, there are no doubt going to be a few who still bring you gifts.

The thing is, if someone really wants to give you a gift, they are likely to do it whether you “like” it or not. In their minds, it may be rude to do otherwise.

Why is it Not Rude?

It is fine if you don’t want gifts from your guests. However, you should not find it rude if some of your guests still bring you gifts.

The truth is, people who want to give gifts are going to do just that. 

Further, seeing as gifts don’t cost you a thing, but indeed offer you something you may need or want, it is very little that is rude about someone giving you a gift (even if you have said please no gifts already).

Common Questions

How to politely say no gifts, please?

There is no right or wrong way to say no gifts, please. Your main priority should simply be letting people know that their presence at your function is a gift enough.

If you want to play it safe, let people know that you don’t want gifts on the invitation.

Is it rude to ask please no gifts?

There is nothing rude about asking guests not to bring gifts. The fact is what it is; if you don’t want gifts it is your right to let the guests know that.

Further, you should take into consideration that whoever wants to bring you a gift is going to do so regardless of what you ask them to do.

Should you put no gifts on the invites?

Yes, you should put no gifts on the invites if you want to let your guests know that you don’t expect or want gifts as early as possible.

People will appreciate knowing upfront whether you want them to bring gifts when they receive their invitations.