Is it Rude to Not Text Someone Back?

Sometimes we feel like not returning text messages, either right away or even ever at all. But, is it considered rude to not text someone back? Read on below and discover the full answer!

Is it Rude to Not Text Someone Back?

Not texting someone back is generally considered rude. If someone is taking the time out of their day to send you a text message, you should text them back. Even if you just tell them you don’t want to talk, or that you’ll text more later, it makes a huge difference in avoiding hurt feelings.

How Rude Is it?


On the rude meter’s scale of 1 to 10, not texting someone back rates 7. The primary reason that not texting back doesn’t rate a full 10 on the rudeness meter is that there are tons of exceptions. In other words, it isn’t always rude to not text back (sometimes there is a very good reason for it).

Why is it Rude?

Not texting back is generally seen as rude, because texting doesn’t take long and it seems like you just really don’t care about the other person’s feelings or what they have to say when you fail to text back. 

Why is it Not Rude?

Not texting someone back isn’t always rude, or seen that way, so long as there is a good reason for it. For example, if you are emotionally upset or tied up with work or something else that prevents you from texting back at the time.

Other Options to Do Instead

If you are thinking about not texting someone back, consider the following possibilities before committing to no reply:

  • Send a short text saying you’ll message back later (if you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings)
  • Fire off a quick text asking to be left alone (if you don’t want to talk right now)
  • Send a random GIF or photo text
  • Reply with an emoticon or two
  • Send a link to a video
  • Block the person (if you don’t want to talk ever again)

Common Questions

Is it rude to not text back at all?

While it is generally considered rude to not text back at all, there are times that it may be necessary. If someone is stalking you, harassing you, or constantly bringing you down, it is better to not text back and then block them and move on.

Is it rude to not text back for a whole day?

Not texting back for a whole day doesn’t make you rude, it makes you a human being and that’s ok. We all have lives to live and sometimes things get in the way of texting back right away. Most people understand this factor and are willing to “forgive” the fact it took a whole day to get a reply.

How long is too long to not text back?

There is no time period that is too long to not text back. If someone/something is important enough, it doesn’t matter if hours, days, weeks, months, or even years have passed; send a text back if you are so compelled to do so. The only text you will ever truly regret is more than likely the text back that you never actually sent and wish you had.