Is it Rude to Not Attend a Baby Shower?

Most of us have been invited to and attended a baby shower at one point, or will in the future.

But, what if we can’t make it or just really don’t wanna go? Is it rude to not attend a baby shower?

Find out by reading the full answer below!

Is it Rude to Not Attend a Baby Shower?

Just because someone invites you to a baby shower doesn’t mean that you are obligated to attend… and there is nothing rude about not attending. 

However, it is more often than not considered rude if you wait until the last moment to cancel or don’t bother letting them know that you won’t be attending. 

You are under no obligation to explain your absence, but it is polite to at least let whoever is hosting the event know that you won’t be able to make it.

How Rude Is it?


On the rude meter’s scale of 1 to 10, not attending a baby shower rates 2

Not attending a baby shower, in itself, is not a rude thing to do. 

However, we’ve added a couple of points to the rating due to the fact that it is quite rude to not let the host know you won’t be attending.

Why is it Not Rude?

As wonderful as it would be if everyone we invited to our baby shower attended, it isn’t a likely scenario. In fact, it isn’t uncommon, or rude, at all, for several of those who were invited to cancel. 

Sometimes, we don’t have the money, time off of work, or the desire (in some cases) to attend the events are invited to, including a baby shower. 

There is nothing rude about someone not attending a baby shower, it’s just the way life goes sometimes!

What is rude, however, is not letting someone know that you aren’t going to make it to the shower.

Common Questions

Are baby showers important to attend?

A new mother’s baby shower is a very important part of her pregnancy and new life as a parent.

If you are closely related or consider yourself a genuine friend, attending the shower is indeed an important gesture.

That said, if you can’t make it, you aren’t being rude so long as you let them know you won’t be there (and why).

How do you tell someone you can’t make it to their baby shower?

The best way to tell someone you can’t make it to the baby shower you are invited to is simply to let them know.

The most important part about telling them you won’t be there is letting them know as soon as possible. Otherwise, they may make arrangements that include food and refreshments.

Is it ok to miss a baby shower of a friend?

It isn’t wrong (or rude) to miss a baby shower per se, but you should do your very best to indeed try and make it if you are truly a friend.

That said, if you know you will miss the shower, let your friend know as soon as you can.