Is it Rude to go to Wedding but Not Reception?

Sometimes, life gets in the way of what would otherwise be grand and memorable events, such as wedding ceremonies and receptions. 

Even more, sometimes we have to choose to attend one event and miss another, due to our demanding schedules and work lives.

But, is it rude to go to someone’s wedding ceremony but not their wedding reception? Read on with us below and discover the answer!

Is it Rude to go to Wedding but Not Reception?

If you can’t make it to someone’s reception but are going to the wedding, there’s nothing rude about it so long as you let whoever is coordinating that you will be attending the ceremony but not the reception.

Otherwise, simply not showing up to the reception after attending the wedding may be seen as rude if not somewhat sus. 

In other words, just let someone know you won’t be attending the reception and everything will be cool.

How Rude Is it?


On the rude meter’s scale of 1 to 10, going to the wedding but not the reception rates 1. The fact of the matter is, people have lives of their own, and schedules to keep… even on your wedding day.

If someone makes it to your wedding or reception, you should be grateful that they made it at all, and not find it rude if they can’t make it to both.

In other words, if someone takes the time out of their busy lives to show up at your wedding, but can’t stick around for the reception, it is not rude whatsoever.

Why is it Not Rude?

It isn’t rude to show up at a wedding and not make it to the reception, at all. What would be rude is not showing up to either function and not taking the time to let the coordinator or couple-to-be know that you won’t make it.

The fact is, showing up to someone’s wedding is a big deal, the reception is more of a party for those who want to stick around and show extra support, and more importantly, for those who have the time to do so.

Common Questions

Is it ok to skip the wedding reception?

It is ok to skip the wedding reception in the event that you don’t have the time, or desire, to do so. 

The main exception to this is when you don’t take the time to let someone know you won’t be able to make it to the reception (ahead of time).

Is it rude to skip someone’s wedding ceremony?

There is nothing rude about skipping someone’s wedding ceremony if you don’t have the time or money to make it. 

Just make sure you let them know you won’t be making it to the wedding in advance. Further, if you can, try and make it to the reception to make up for it if you can. 

Is it ok to invite people to the reception but not the wedding?

There is no hard and fast rule as to who you should invite to the wedding ceremony, versus who you should invite to the reception. 

The fact is, it is your wedding ceremony and your wedding reception… you are free to invite, or not invite, whoever you please… period.