Is it Rude to Cancel a Date Last Minute?

Most of us have been there at least once, on one side or the other of the scenario: a date has been planned for days or weeks, but at the last minute it is canceled by one of you.

Is it rude to cancel a date at the last minute? Read on below and discover how rude it actually is (or isn’t)!

Is it Rude to Cancel a Date Last Minute?

Canceling a date at the very last minute is definitely a rude thing to do unless you have a seriously good reason for it.

In fact, just about the only time it is considered ok to cancel a date at the last minute is if a genuine emergency arises (or some sort of honest-to-god once-in-lifetime opportunity happens to pop up).

How Rude Is it?


Canceling a date at the last minute rates 9 out of 10 on the rude meter. The only reason it doesn’t rate 10 stars is that there do happen to be some times that it is unavoidable and even generally ok to cancel a date at the last minute. 

If you or a loved one have a serious accident or some other significant emergency strike, it is without question ok to cancel your date and won’t be seen as rude. However, that doesn’t mean it will make your date feel any better about being stood up.

Why is it Rude?

Only in the case of a true emergency or due to something that is absolutely out of your hands is it even remotely ok to cancel a date at the last minute.

If you don’t want your date to think you are a big fat jerk, you need to cancel the arrangement as early as possible, preferably days ahead (and by the very least hours ahead of time).

Other Options to Do Instead

The sooner that you can let your date know that you are canceling the arrangement, the better. If you can call them on the morning of the date and let them know why you can’t make it, that’s the best thing to do.

But, if for some reason, you can’t call them, or tell them in person, you should fire them off a text or email the minute you know you have to cancel. 

Common Questions

Is canceling an arrangement last minute rude?

Generally speaking, yes. Canceling an arrangement, or date, at the last minute is typically considered a rude thing to do. Unless you have a really good reason, avoid canceling last minute unless you want to be seen as a rude jerk.

How do you cancel something last minute?

Canceling something at the last minute is usually done over the phone, whether via voice call or text message. However, canceling via a social media message or email is also pretty common. Believe it or not, failing to show up and letting the person find out on their own also happens.

Is it ok to cancel a date the day before?

Canceling a date the day before is much more acceptable than canceling it the day of, or at the last minute. That said, depending on how long the date has been planned, a few days to a week of notice is much preferred and less likely to be seen as rude.