Is it Rude To Avoid Someone?

It happens all the time: someone says or does something that is super annoying, hurtful, or downright uncalled for… and they just keep doing it. 

Naturally, we’d rather avoid them than keep dealing with their rude behavior… but, is it rude to avoid the person? Read on and learn the answer!

Is it Rude to Avoid Someone?

Avoiding someone isn’t always exactly mature, but, that doesn’t mean it is quite rude either.

Sometimes there is no better option than to avoid someone.

For example, when someone continuously makes problems or complains excessively, it is less rude to avoid them than it is to cause conflict.

How Rude Is it?


Avoiding someone rates 3 out of 10 on the rude meter. While there are often better options than simply avoiding someone, sometimes avoiding people is uncalled for, immature, and yes, even rude.

That’s why we’ve given the rating of 3 stars, rather than 1 star to the act of avoiding people.

In other words, the majority of the time people avoid someone, they ought to have a good reason for it. But, when avoiding someone for selfish or silly reasons, it is seen as being rude toward the said person.

Why is it Not Rude?

Generally speaking, it isn’t rude to avoid someone when you have a good reason. If someone is bound and determined for your interactions to be conflicts rather than conversations, avoiding them is your best option. 

That said, avoiding someone is not always necessary, and is, if done for the wrong reasons, quite rude.

Other Options to Do Instead

If you truly need to avoid someone, there is no other option than to do just that. In some cases, you may even want to consider filing a restraining order on the person, so that they must legally avoid you also (or suffer legal consequences, like jail time).

If you’re avoiding someone for less serious reasons, here are a few other options to do instead:

  • Tell the person how you feel so you don’t need to avoid them anymore
  • Stop putting yourself in a position to need to avoid someone
  • Examine your feelings and emotions regarding why you choose to avoid someone
  • Ask a friend to explain the situation to the person you’re avoiding, if you can’t do so yourself
  • Stop fearing small talk and open yourself up to the company of others

It is important to note the vast differences in situations of avoidance; sometimes we avoid people for very little reason aside from our own discomfort (or fear), and other times we avoid people out of defensive instinct and self-preservation.

Common Questions

What am i avoiding someone?

The reasons we avoid people are many; sometimes we just don’t like small talk (with a certain someone, or in general), sometimes we enjoy our own company more than that of others, and other times we avoid people out of fear.

Is it wrong to avoid someone?

It is only wrong to avoid someone if you are doing it with malicious intent, otherwise, it may be silly, or even uncalled for, but avoiding someone isn’t wrong unless it hurts that someone. Avoiding people is sometimes necessary to avoid conflict.

When is it ok to avoid someone?

The main time it is ok, even good, to avoid someone, is when avoiding the person saves everyone from conflict, drama, or some other unnecessary set of circumstances or offenses.