Is it Rude To Ask To Go To Someone’s House?

We’ve all been there before; we don’t want to go home for whatever reason (or can’t), but we don’t have anywhere else to go (or, we simply feel like hanging out). 

Is it rude to ask to go to someone’s house? Read on and learn the answer!

Is it Rude To Ask To Go To Someone’s House?

Asking to go to someone’s house is sometimes rude, sometimes not. There are a few factors that help determine whether it is rude or not, and to what degree. 

If you are asking a close friend or family worker, it is not likely to be considered rude. 

But, on the other hand, asking a co-worker, new friend, or mere acquaintance, is most often seen as a rude thing to do.

How Rude Is it?


On a scale of 1 to 10, asking to go to someone’s house rates 5 on the rude meter. The reason we’ve rated asking to go to someone’s house smack-dab in the middle of the meter is that it really is half and half; sometimes it is rude, and sometimes it isn’t. 

Whether it is rude or not depends on who you are asking, when you are asking, why you are asking, and how you go about it, among other factors.

Why is it Rude?

It is rude to simply ask someone that you don’t know or don’t know well, to go to their house. It doesn’t matter if you are asking to go for five minutes, for a cup of tea, to hang out for the evening, or to crash for the night: it is rude.

Why is it Not Rude?

Asking a friend, family member, or even co-worker that you regularly hang out with at their house (and most probably yours too), is no big deal and is far from rude. In fact, it is probably expected at some point.  

Other Options to Do Instead

There are a few good options to do instead of asking someone to go to their house if you are worried about how rude it will seem:

  • Make it clear that you are interested in what they are doing later
  • Invite them over to your house, and say that you should hang out sometime
  • Wait until you know the person is at home and then call or text them fishing for an invite

Common Questions

How do you ask to go to someone’s house?

Asking to go to someone’s house, once you have made the decision to do so is very easy: just spit it out. Let them know you are interested in coming over and ask them what time would be best. The rest will take care of itself from there.

Is it wrong to ask to hang out at someone’s house?

It is not wrong to ask to hang out with someone, especially at their house, when you are genuinely interested in them. That said, the less you know someone, the ruder it may seem to them if you directly ask them about going to their house. Inviting them to your house is a much better option is possible.

How do you invite someone over?

Inviting someone over to your house, for whatever reason, is quite simple. All you need to do is say something like “do you wanna come over… a, b, and c” or “how about coming over to my place and 1, 2, 3”. If they are interested, you will be able to tell from their answer and body language.