Is it Rude to Ask a Girl for a Picture?

Getting to know a girl that you’re interested in has a magical feeling to it, the more you get to know her, the more you are curious about the rest of her… including what she looks like, how she smiles, how she styles her hair, and more.

But, is it rude to ask a girl for a picture? Read on below and find out!

Is it Rude to Ask a Girl for a Picture?

Asking a girl for a picture is a typical move when getting to know her, but it should be done in a polite and courteous way or it may indeed be seen as rude.

Further, you should never ask a girl for a picture during your first chat or texting session. 

Wait until you know that she is equally interested in you as you are interested in her before you take the step of asking her for a picture.

Also, restrain from being pushy about it or she might just change her mind as to how she feels about you.

How Rude Is it?


On the rude meter’s scale of 1 to 10, asking a girl for picture rates 3. The reason that asking a girl for her picture rates is so low is that it has become quite standard in online relationships (to ask each other for a picture). 

How else can you put a face to the person you’ve been chatting with, if not via a picture or video chat?

That said, the reason we’ve assigned three points of rudeness to ask a girl for her picture is that there are polite ways to do it and not-so-polite ways. 

Further, there are proper and improper times to do so.

Why is it Rude?

It is rude to ask a girl for her picture when you are chatting for the first time or two… unless the chats are extremely long and deep. 

In most cases, you should wait a few days or weeks, and several chats, before popping the question.

Why is it Not Rude?

Meeting and getting to know a girl online is pretty common these days, as is asking her for a picture. The only other way to get to know what her face looks like is by video chatting. 

In many cases, girls are more comfortable with sending you a picture (most likely carefully photoshopped to look her best) than video chatting with you until she gets to know you much better.

Common Questions

Is it rude to ask for a picture?

It isn’t rude to ask for a picture, in general. However, the way you go about it can indeed make it rude. For example, if you ask a girl what she looks like, and ask for a picture, within five minutes of starting to chat for the first time, she is likely going to ignore the request (unless she is an attention seeker).

What to do when a guy asks for your picture?

When a guy asks for your picture it is an indicator that he is interested in being more than just platonic friends. That means your response is going to give him a signal that you are equally interested in him. So, think twice before you send him your picture just to be nice.

How do you ask for a picture?

Asking a girl for a picture is as easy as telling her that you’ve enjoyed getting to know her so far but that you’d enjoy it even more with a face-to-picture while further chatting. You can also try a slicker way to get her picture, like sending her yours and seeing if she returns the favor. Asking her to video chat and taking a screenshot is another possibility.